What Do You Think?: Dealing with Divorce
Friday, May 3, 2013 at 4:46PM
Lynda Rae in divorce, fighting, parents

What do you think about this scenario?

Bobby is eleven years old and is in 6th grade. His parents have been together for over 13 years, but have always had a very hard relationship. They managed to stay together for Bobby and his sister, thinking it would benefit them. However, they have trouble being around each other and fight constantly. When they start fighting, Bobby and his sister run to their room and he tries to occupy his sister to distract her. Bobby has recently noticed more and more yelling between his mom and dad and he doesn’t know what is happening between them.

Just last week, Bobby's parents told his sister and him they are getting a divorce. Bobby is scared and sad because he is used to having both parents at home. He is trying to figure out what to do, and how can he deal with such a new reality.

Questions for Discussion:

1. Can Bobby understand the reasoning behind his parents separation? Do you think he blames himself? How would you feel?

2. Do you think Bobby can try to convince his parents to stay together? Should he try?

3. What are the pros and cons of his parents getting divorced? What could be positive about it?

4. How might the divorce change Bobby's relationship with his parents?

5. What could his parents do to make this easier for Bobby?

6. What other emotions do you think Bobby is feeling? Should he talk to someone about them? Who?

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